Hoo boy, since I last posted, I’ve been to Heck and back. Not quite Hell, just the wrong side of Heck’s tracks.
OK, every once in a while I have to briefly mention the dark side of parenthood. Currently, it’s my son, AKA Boy. I know a lot of you can relate to some degree – he’s 14, probably bipolar and probably has a bit of Asperger’s. In other words, he’s at a horrible stage in life, wildly emotional and even more socially awkward than I was at 14, not an easy feat at all, as I was all but paralyzed with social I’m-not-worthiness.
He started his Freshman year high school (School X – there was no time to switch him to Awesome School before the school year began) a couple of weeks ago and it’s been a rougher start than even we expected. He knows nobody at the school and his rather extreme social awkwardness/anxiety overtook his very soul. In short, he won’t go to any classes at all because he’s too freaked out to enter a room full of strangers.
SO. You know how it is; one family member freaks out, everybody freaks out. It’s been super freaky around here. Don’t think I’m looking for pity; we pride ourselves on our ability to function amidst chaos.
But there’s really GOOD NEWS, I hope. School X is proving to be Awesome because they’re not giving up on the boy, they’re actually working with us to accommodate him. THIS IS HUGE. I LOVE LOVE LOVE THIS SCHOOL DISTRICT. We may end up with a highly creative way of getting the kid through high school that doesn’t involve home schooling. Woo hoo!
In other news, our college Freshman daughter is, we think, adjusting quite well. See, I went to college 600 miles from home, and being so on my own was a lot tougher than I expected. Girl’s school is 6 miles away. She lives in a dorm (single room – uh oh) but is able to come home on weekends to get a decent night’s sleep and a decent meal. I LOVE this SO MUCH. I’m not ready to kick my baby from the nest just yet.
She’s not quite ready to fly away yet, BUT. She’s also only 6 miles from her boyfriend. He has his own car. She has her own dorm room.
I gave her a pack of condoms.
Oy. Parenthood is Heck.
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Ai yi yi. I’m sorry you’re dealing with stuff with Boy. I’ll cross my fingers that you can get it all sorted out soon.
Aw, Jen, don’t pity me. We’re used to this nuttiness and can definitely handle it. Just venting a little!
I told Mr. Hot that he needed to speak with Shortman about condoms. Again. He laughed at me.
I’m not sure how to take this. I may just pack some in with his shaving cream.
Aw, I’m sorry your boy is having a rough time! I know how stressful that is (thinking back to when my boy developed a phobia of being outdoors and wouldn’t go out for PE or recess…)! I’m glad the school is working with him on it and I hope his anxiety levels plummet soon (and yours too, eh?).
As for the single dorm room, ACK. I had one of those for a while. And … good call on the condoms. Is all I’m sayin’.
You sound like you’re doing fine… School X turning out to be on board and Girl armed with condoms because “Grammy Sarah” just sounds wrong.
Well done!!
Besos,
K.
I am hoping more parents provided condoms. Hoping for abstinence is – well – not probably what the college kids are hoping for. I bet it was more difficult than it sounds to hand them to her, however..
I love this school district, too.
Good luck with the HS stuff. Sounds pretty awful.
Glad the girl’s doing well at my school (I say that because I think out of state tuition for 4 years means I own a pretty good chunk of it).